Today I’d like to share this post, I Can’t Stand You (Please Don’t Leave Me), about the thought process of an abused person.
“An abuse victim’s thought process is a paradox as her mind waffles between extremes – a simmering resentment toward her abuser juxtaposed against a desperate, if destructive, addiction to him.” (Hurt by Love)
Oh how very true!
It all feels so twisted in your mind how you can’t stand the abuser, yet don’t feel you can live without them. You hate them one minute and then desperately try to convince yourself (and others perhaps) how much you love them.
It’s so challenging when you want to be accepted and feel you are worthy and lovable, yet you live with a person who only occasionally allows you to believe those things and then rips it all out from under you in a split second.
It becomes a dance of sorts — one, two, three; one, two, three. Only it’s much more confusing and often results in your toes being stepped on — hate him, love him; hate him, love him. It’s the dance of paradoxical thinking which leaves you spinning with dizziness.
If you are living with abuse in your life, please know there is something better for you. There is help to get out, to stop the crazy-making and be able to live a truly fulfilling life.
May you find the strength to break free of this type of thinking in your life, and the courage to create your own dance steps full of love, peace and worthiness.